The Two-Piece Dilemma

Lately I’ve been studying the Bible pretty closely especially when it comes to what God says about beauty.  As a young woman, I struggled greatly in this area, always looking to the world and the people in it for validation.  Clearly, this was before I found Jesus and ultimately chose to look to Him for every thing in my life.  Gaining all my fulfillment from Him and what His word says about me has transformed my life, and it will transform yours as well.  For those of you who haven’t spent a lot of time in the word, I’ll give you a super short intro and if you want to know more please just ask!

God’s definition of beauty and man’s definition of beauty vary so differently that I’m not even sure they should be called the same word.  1 Peter 3:3-4  says “Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”  So, in fact, God looks at the beauty of someone as what they have, deep down in the depths of their heart, not how they wear their hair, make up, or clothes.  1 Samuel 16:7 also says, “But the LORD said to Samuel, ‘Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.’ ”  I think that pretty much sums it up.  God isn’t looking at how awesomely your new pair of shoes coordinates with your outfit.  The entire reason we were put on this earth was the be beautiful from the inside out in order to bring Him all the glory.

This leads me to an answer to a question I’m often asked (sometimes by members of our own families), “Why don’t you put Rylea in those little cutie patootie bikinis?”  For the record, Rylea has never worn a two piece bathing suit, and since I’ve found Jesus neither have I, and we never will.  It has nothing to do with how I might feel about my body (even though, trust me, you all dodged that bullet when I decided that we wouldn’t be wearing two pieces!).  It has everything to do with what my Creator thinks is beautiful.  You might know Jesus and feel differently, and that’s OK.  That’s something that you need to take up with Him.  I’m not here to judge or even convict you.  I’m leaving that up to the Lord.  I’m just here to publicly answer a question I get asked quite frequently.  If you’re not sure how you feel then I encourage you to do your own research in the Bible and pray a lot.  God will direct you.  He always does.

Don’t get me wrong, I think those little girl bikinis are some of the cutest things I’ve seen.  But, that’s just the thing.  It’s not about what I think is cute, it’s about what my Father thinks is beautiful.  My eyes are flawed and clouded by Satan and this world.  My perfect Father believes that our bodies are a temple for the Holy Spirit to dwell and we should treat our bodies as such.  It’s never going to be OK for me or my daughter to walk around in our bra and underwear in front of total strangers in public so it’s never going to be OK for me to wear the same thing in different colors in a bathing suit.  My body belongs to my God and my husband and Rylea’s body belongs to God and, Lord willing, her future husband.  I don’t think my daughter any less beautiful for the clothes she does or does not wear.  I pray often that I would see my children with His eyes so I can better understand how the Lord views me as His own.  We were bought with a price, and we deserve Hell.  The least I can do is cover up and dress in a way that pleases my Lord and teach my daughter to do the same.

3 thoughts on “The Two-Piece Dilemma

  1. Good points Kirsten! I think it is true that we do need to just sift through the stuff that enters our home. Some things are simply a matter of opinion and we don’t need to be judgmental about things that are in fact opinions. Many one piece swimsuits are still quite revealing–I feel like I need a new one and I just bought mine. At the store it looked fine but when it’s wet, things look different! 🙂 We’ve been struggling with the issue of Barbie dolls and honestly can not decide one way or the other. Sometimes it is truly difficult to figure out what is Biblical and what is just trying to live up to others’ expectations. I was shocked at first at what some Christian families think is okay and what is not okay. Some families are strict about some things but are surprisingly lenient on others. But I think it’s good to have a few simple guidelines in the house, especially before you go shopping and see those cuuuuute swimsuits or outfits and want to make an exception to the rule. Right now our girls are still practically babies, but it’s only going to get tougher with issues of beauty and conservative dress. 🙂 Ah!

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